środa, 14 marca 2012

FanstRAvaganza 2012 - Psychology - How to find balance in "being Richard Armitage's fan" or "I don't need to marry him"

FastRAvaganza 2012

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Welcome on third Armitageness' Lessons of Fangirling

Day 3

Psychology - How to find balance in "being Richard Armitage's fan" or "I don't need to marry him"

or "how not to become a psychofan"

I'm sorry for my english.
Let's start with this song of The Police.

Every breath you take
And every move you make
Every bond you break every step you take
I’ll be watching you

Every single day
And every word you say
Every game you play
every night you stay
I’ll be watching you

Oh, can’t you see
You belong to me
How my poor heart aches
With every step you take
Every move you make
Every vow you break
Every smile you fake
every claim you stake
I’ll be watching you

Since you’ve gone I’ve been lost without a trace
I dream at night I can only see your face
I look around but it’s you I can’t replace
I feel so cold and I long for your embrace
I keep crying baby, baby please
Oh, can’t you see
You belong to me
How my poor heart aches
With every step you take
Every move you make
Every vow you break
Every smile you fake
every claim you stake
I’ll be watching you
Every move you make every step you take
I’ll be watching you
I’ll be watching you

Just imagine to be famous for one day. Not only You should work for Your bread, but You are living under the pressure that everybody is watching Your move. How is possible to be Yourself in this circumstances?
Well Richard is very private person. Should say this is very good for him.

The main problem in "being a fan" of somebody with opposite sex is that ...em... how can I say this... Some of fans have much more bigger expectations, that their Idol can give them.

For past years I was interesting with many things and I was and still I'm a fan of many people, like: Michael Praed, Enya, Roy Dupuis, Louis de Funès, Tommy Lee Jones etc, etc. And I can say: They don't even know that I'm exist. For Idols is important that they have fans. Without fans Idols don't exist.

For more to read see HERE on my blog Article about 1000 true fans.

I remember Lady Gaga from her very first interviews, that she was saying about not having much money, because all what she had got were clothes. But she is really hard working girl, and as I saw through these years she is very carrying about her fans, same Rihanna.
But these all people have THEIR OWN LIFES and not only. They have their own problems, feelings, memories, family, dreams, plans and in this isn't place for fans.

This is the most important what fan should remember. This is the most important in good balance in "being a fan".

Idol is human, person, same as we are, and has these same laws as we have.

I really like to watch fan vids from BAFTAs or photos made by fans or messages about autographs or meetings with Richard. We all can see that Richard only when he has time, he is working for his fans. And this takes time. His time. Not only he should preparing to new movies or resting. He does as much as he can for us.
As I quess everybody is waiting for his letters. This is even more what other stars are doing for fans.

I know that daily dreaming about Richard is very popular in Armitage fandom, but this can't lead to sorrow, that some things can't happen in our life, because we can't just marry Richard. I can't have even possibility to see him live, so this can't lower my fan feelings, that I like his work, movies, etc.

So for balance is important:
1. Your idol is human being with his own life, problems, feelings, memories, family, dreams, plans and time. As same as You are.

2. And he has right to choose person who can be with him in relationship. One more time - this is His Life. As nobody can't say with whom You can be in relationship.

3. Your idol can don't know that You are existing in person. It's his right.

4. For idol is important that he has fans.

5. Idol is really afraid of psychofans, so don't scare him more.

6. Fan has right to have fun from being a fan: that means meetings with other fans, oggling on photos, making arts, movies, buying things with idol, making things with idol, be happy when idol is in TV or is having an award or has possibility to be more famous or all 3 or more. You can write about Your fan feelings to Your idol, but maybe sending him a bra isn't such a good idea.;D Better pants, but for him.

7. Fan has right to be overexcited when idol is near. but look at point 5.

8. Fan should not be offended when bodyguard of his idol is mean. He is protecting Your idol.

9. Remember that thanks to You, Your idol can see why he is doing this what he is doing. You are making that he can see sense of his work.

10. You are a fan, because You like to be a fan, not because You have to.

For me being a fan should develop, and as I saw the most handsome male on the world I just can concentrate when I see other male bum and enjoy it.


22 komentarze:

Anonimowy pisze...

That last graphic is just gorgeous. Hope you don't mind if I steal it!

This is a neat post and I'm glad you were the person to bring this up; I feel like every FanstRAvaganza needs one post in this general area, and yours is really concrete and helpful. As far as I go, I always tell myself it's okay to indulge in whatever fantasies I like as long as I don't do it in his presence, which I will never do, because I'm pretty sure I'll never have the opportunity to meet him -- but I also remind myself, when the fantasies get out of hand, that I know almost nothing about him. Everything I think about "him" is an extrapolation I make based on my own reactions. And because of that I tend to underplay stuff that I wouldn't like if I did know him. I don't like to ski or go to nightclubs, for instance.

It helps a lot that I don't want to get married, though :) Not even to Richard Armitage!

CDoart pisze...

What great 10 points of fandom. I very much like your rule-book of good fan-behaviour, Jonia!

bccmee pisze...

It's always good to keep those guidelines in mind. :)

Lucy Darcy pisze...

What do you mean I CAN'T Marry Richard? hahahahaha Just kidding.

I would say that sending anyone pants/underwear (for them or your own) is always a no-no unless you are a couple. :-)

Great post

gracie pisze...

This is wonderful and keeps it real. You are so right when you say that I am a fan because I want to be and not because I have to be. It is my choice and the idol of worship owes me nothing but putting out good work for me to enjoy.

I think sometimes it is better when it is a fantasy. There, he can be whatever I want him to be. lol

jazzbaby1 pisze...

This is perfect. Really.

Anonimowy pisze...

The thing about sending someone your undies is: what are you going to wear if they're all in the mail? I'm pushed as it is to find a decent pair on laundry day!
I think the general rule I have adopted is: RA character fantasies more than OK, RA fantasies OK, as long as in my head they stay!
BTW Richard and I are considering an autumn wedding, what do you think? :)

Joanna pisze...

Dear Jonia!
It's fun to be his fan,really.:)
Do you see this bunch of interesting people that are in love with him?
He must be unique(or he is a truly good 'player') ;)
BTW Congratulations IWantToBeAPinUp!( she said,gnashing her teeth)Shall I can be a nanny?.Please,let me know.:)

mulubinba pisze...

Great post Jonia. I agree with everything you've said.

LOL IWantToBeAPinUp .... make sure you share the wedding photos :)

Jonia's cut pisze...

Gals, gals please! of course that You can't marry Richard, because he promised to marry me this August and after that we are going on honeymoon in Fiji with these all attractions like riding on banana, parachute sailing, jet ski, snorkeling etc. I'll post all these manips...em.. I mean photos soon.

Phoebe pisze...

Great way to start the post by showing the Stalkers Anthem "Every Breath You Take"

OK, Mom -So you are saying I can't take my planned trip to SE London in July and perch on a park bench waiting...

Anonimowy pisze...

Great post, Jonia! Being a fan really is all about balance. If a fan starts thinking that their idol owes them something, they are getting into dangerous territory. I'm good with all manner of fantasy as long as it stays fantasy. By the way ladies, Richard and I are getting married over Spring Break...did you not get your invitiations? ;)

Ania pisze...

Thanks Jonia, now I'm sure that I am a good fan and being his fan is really exciting :)

UK Expat pisze...

Wonderful post, Jonia, I absolutely & positively LOVE your list!

I do have a running fantasy that one day I will be close enough to US Fed Chairman Ben Bernanke to ask him to autograph my college macroeconomics textbook (although that textbook is pretty heavy to be dragging around for an autograph!)

But it's probably safer for the free market trading world if I'm not allowed too close to Mr. Bernanke (lest I bore him to death with my worthless gushing over his Depression Era scholarship or the innovative tools he created to mitigate total catastrophe of the world financial markets in 2008). *sigh*

Ladies, I just want to say I have received NO INVITATIONS to any of these weddings!! But all will be forgiven if I get a link to the photos! ;)

Anonimowy pisze...

Thanks for posting this, Jonia! It's very true, and important that we remember :) Just think, if you were a celeb, and some guy you have never seen comes up to you and says...."OMG you are AMAZING can I marry you?!!"

You would find it a little strange!!

Love the song "Every Breath You Take" and nice to include it in your post!

Richardsbabe pisze...
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Richardsbabe pisze...

Brilliant post Jonia! I must honestly say that I absolutely love fantasising about Richard but, as some of you has said, as long as it stays fantasy. Hey ladies! Can´t wait to see those wedding photo albums!

Servetus pisze...

riding on a banana? hmmm ....

Trudy pisze...

Jonia, I laughed so hard at the mention of sending a bra and again when # 7 points back to #5 !!! Love your humor. Yes, we love him, but we don't have a right to intrude on his privacy or cause him particular embarrassment. He has his own life. We should have a life, too! I'm trying!

Gratiana Lovelace pisze...

Hi Jonia,
Right on, girlfriend! I cringe when I watch red carpet video of screaming fans and photographers--for whomever is the object of their interest. It is so undignified. Now, a modest shout out is altogether different--as in the fellow who told his wife to say "look back at me, Richard" at the CALA premiere. Brilliant!
I would be too shy to ever meet him. And besides, I married my John Standring 22 years ago. Ha! So, I'm good.
Cheers! Grati ;->
P.S. And yes, my hubby knows all about my RA admiration. I think my rewatching the N&S train station love scene during commercials of his shows until I figured out how to play the dvd on my laptop was a big clue. Ha!

Faboamanto pisze...

Speaking of bananas...Still on Dancing Banana search? I just know someone has at least a photo! LOL

Great list Jonia - a keeper for all fans.

Jonia's cut pisze...

Hello :) Thank You All for the comments :)
@Servetus This banana is more than 10 meters long so there is real fun riding on it.

@Fabo You mean photo as banana or photo with banana ;)

We All are silly in our fangirling :)

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